Weelings A1e +o1 Weeling ! 93 Feeling Tool #3 Reacting vs. Feeling Your Feelings When I start telling clients to feel their feelings, they inevitably start telling me how this is impossible. They can’t imagine a life where they are feeling their feel- ings all the time. They imagine that they will be walking around, crying and screaming and yelling. They say things like, “So, when I am in the middle of a very big meeting, you want me to just feel?” Yes. Yes and Yes. I want you to stay connected to yourself at all times and acknowledge your feelings. What is the alternative? Not feeling? Being riddled with stress? You must feel what you are feeling in the moment. You must stay connected to yourself and your body. The point at which you disconnect is when you overeat. The difference here is that I am not suggest- ing that you react to your feelings in a physical way. Many times we feel a feeling and believe we must “do” something about that feeling right away by acting it out or expressing it. This simply just isn’t true. You can allow yourself to feel angry and you can notice that the anger makes you want to punch your boss, but you can stand quietly and be fascinated by this without