loves to go golfing, but it’s a sport that takes half the day and he was always gone for a long time. I decided that I would learn the sport in order to spend more time with him. Any of you who play know that it truly is the most frustrating sport ever created. It took me three years of sucking at it before I would keep score. It was awful to tee off in front of people and have the ball go three feet. Fortunately, I wasn’t golfing to impress anyone; I wasn’t golfing so I could look good and not make mistakes. I was learning to golf so I could try a new sport and to spend more time with my husband, so I didn’t let anything like being horrible at it make me quit. I am still pretty bad, but I can go and be with my husband and actually play. I decided I would rather be a beginner in the game than a specta- tor on the sidelines; it has paid off in so many ways that I apply to the rest of my life. It’s a very good skill set to have. I now try lots of new things because I know how to suck at things in the beginning and it doesn’t bother me. The following advice, from my own brilliant teacher, Martha Beck, sums it up, “Anything worth doing is worth doing terribly.” Now go. 79 • If IAm So Smart, Why Can’t I Lose Weight?