So many of my clients tell me they feel desperate and trapped. When I ask them to follow the feeling to their belief system, they inevitably follow it to their hus- band, their job, or their kids. They tell me that if their husband was kinder and more attentive and their kids were better behaved and their job was less stressful then they would feel better. Client after client tells me that she would be happier if her husband showed her more attention. HELLO! You aren’t giving yourself the time of day; you are ignoring your basic emotional and physical health and you want your husband to pay more attention to you? YOU FIRST! You teach people how to treat you. If you aren’t treat- ing yourself with kindness and love, please don’t expect anyone else to do it for you instead; you have shown them that you don’t think you deserve it. What MoD Telieve Is Who MoD A1e ! 133 I+ yoD1 haYYiness CeYenCs on what someone else Coes o1 Coesn’t Co3 yoD a1e going to be DnhaYYy a lot o+ the time.