Exercise: • Make a list of everyone and everything in your life that you believe is causing you pain. For example, “My husband causes me to feel unloved because he isn’t romantic.” Make the list with as many things as you can think of. • Now, go through the list and rewrite the reasons by taking full responsibility for them. For exam- ple, “I chose to feel unloved because my husband isn’t romantic.” Or, “I chose to feel ugly because I weigh three hundred pounds.” Or, “I chose to feel weak because I overate yesterday.” • Could you decide to feel differently about people or circumstances? Could you remain happy despite the negative situation? Why or why not? 108 • If IAm So Smart, Why Can’t I Lose Weight? Realizing yoD a1e 1esYonsible +o1 yoD1 own +eelings is ve1y gooC news. It means yoD Con’t have to 1ely on someone else to +eel bette1.