certain people because I was so wrapped up in whether or not they liked me. I had to think about it when I spent time with them. I had to turn off my “try- to-be-pleasing act” and replace it with “am I having fun with this person?” Do I like spending my time with them? I cannot tell you how changing my focus in this area has changed my life. I used to think this was an issue that only I had until I started coaching. I found many clients who, like me, spent time with people because they were liked by them. When I asked, “What do you like about them?” many times the response was a blank stare and the response, “They’re okay, I guess.” What happens is when we aren’t giving ourselves enough love and approval, we are looking outside of ourselves to get it. When someone actually gives us some approval, we do whatever we can to keep getting it. We start doing an approval-earning dance based on what we think they like. This can become quite exhausting. QaXe MoD1sel+ \1oDC by PaXing Ca1e ! A76 Change the ]Destion +1oma “Uo they liXe me?” to “Uo I liXe me?”