on their relationship, the answer in is the negative numbers. In fact, most people spend the majority of time with their spouses doing daily agendas and argu- ing about trivial matters. Often, I will recommend setting up a date night to encourage time spent away from the kids and away from errands in order to fully engage with one another. At this suggestion, I hear, “Well we don’t have time or money or energy to spend one day a week with each other.” I remind them of how much they paid for their car, which didn’t make the outcome list. I ask them how much time they spend watching TV or being on the Internet, again nowhere on the outcome list. It is possible to invest in your relationship and be a busy, full-time working mom. I have been married for eight years and I can count on one hand the number of date nights we have missed. We have a standing appointment with a babysitter and we count on that time to reconnect and love each other. My husband is one of the most important things in my life and I don’t just talk about it, I prove it by giving both of us one night a week. Our friends know not to call us on Tuesday because we won’t be home or available for anything but each other. It is not negotiable. QaXe MoD1 WDtD1e SaYYenfUon’t Let It SaYYen to MoD ! 185