For each belief, she suggests asking these four ques- tions: “Is it true? Can you absolutely know that it is true? How do you react when you think that thought? Who would you be without that thought?” I highly rec- ommend all her books and her work. They have truly changed my life. I use a version of her technique with my clients when handling their negative beliefs. I ask the client how they feel when they believe they are unlovable and not attractive. They usually say something like, “I feel awful and shy and I feel like I want to hide” (now there’s a good way to attract a man). I ask them how they act. They usually say that they act cold and aloof in order to not risk rejection. It’s at this point that I say, “Do you think maybe he didn’t respond to you because you were being cold and not because you are unattractive?” Hmmm. Maybe. Maybe? I bet you could bank on it. I then ask my client, “If you were to get rid of this belief system, how would you feel?” The answer invariably comes back with, “Happy, fun, outgoing, and excited.” I don’t need to tell you from which place you will be more attractive to the opposite sex. What MoD Telieve Is Who MoD A1e ! A25