choice but to sabotage our reality and gain our weight back in order to be back in line with what we believe. This is a very common dance most of my clients expe- rience. It’s not until we get hold of the belief and change it that we find any permanent weight-loss results. It’s very important to remember that many of the beliefs that drive us are completely illogical. When we discover the things we believe in, we might be tempted to disregard them because they seem so silly. This would be a very big mistake. Many of our belief systems were formed when we were small children and when we didn’t have the emotional maturity to understand why things happen to us. As children, we tend to blame ourselves for everything because we don’t understand the complexities of other people’s lives and experiences. We might believe that it’s our fault if our parents fight all the time. We inter- nalize the blame for the negative circumstances because the alternative of being completely out of con- trol is unthinkable. We then believe that if we were better behaved, our parents wouldn’t fight anymore. At least, we feel as if there is something we can do about it. We search for ways to cope and survive by try- ing to generalize what everything means. We take two unrelated things—our behavior and our parent’s mar- What MoD Telieve Is Who MoD A1e ! A15