You don’t jump to the belief that you will be rejected because it probably wouldn’t occur to you. If, for some reason, this man rejected you, you would simply see that he was not the man for you. You would be able to look at it from a place of security and calmness because you believe you are worthy and you would know that you deserve love and that it is just going to be from your- self until the right man comes along. Can you see how connected all this is to overeating and your weight? In the first belief, you might feel anxiety and overeat. You might even eat enough to gain weight. You then use the weight gain and the fact that you can- not fit into your clothes as further proof that you are not worthy of a loving relationship. With a lot of extra weight, you might attract fewer suitors, then further prove your belief systems to yourself. But it doesn’t make it true! Just because you have found a way to prove to yourself that you are unworthy of love does not mean you are. It just means your belief system is being well fed, instead of evaluated and starved of proof. So, to review. First, acknowledge and feel the feeling. Second, follow where it leads. When you get to the belief, pay attention to it no matter how illogical it might seem to you as an adult. See how it has mani- 118 • If IAm So Smart, Why Can’t I Lose Weight?