riage—and we connect them. When our parents later divorce, we might internalize that and believe we were not good enough to keep them together. The bad news is that many of us still have beliefs we developed when we were too young to know any bet- ter. We don’t have a class in adulthood where someone comes in and reminds us that now we have the emo- tional maturity and tools to understand the realities of external circumstances. No one to remind us that there is now a way to question circumstances that have nothing to do with us—and not internalize them. We literally need to remind ourselves that we are good enough and that we always were. We need to go in and find all these old illogical beliefs and evaluate them with new eyes as adults. 116 • If IAm So Smart, Why Can’t I Lose Weight? kDst becaDse a belie+ seems illogical Coesn’t mean we still Con’t believe it.