The way we do this is by staying connected to our- selves and paying attention. When negative feelings come up and we feel them instead of denying them, they can be the doorway into our beliefs. For example, if you are feeling anxious because a man hasn’t called, you can evaluate what is really going on deeper. You can think about what the real feeling is. It might start out as anxiety that makes you want to eat because there are no messages on your phone. If you sit with it and go deeper, you may see that you are really feeling fear. You can go deeper and see that you are afraid he won’t call and that he will reject you. As you focus on this, you can see you are afraid of being rejected because, on some level, you don’t think you are worthy of having a loving relationship. BINGO! Crappy belief system found. Maybe you didn’t have much love from your dad when you were young so you started believ- ing that you weren’t worthy of a man’s love. Here you are forty years later still believing it! Is it logical? No. But, on some level, you believe it to be true and it is causing you to have anxiety about him calling. To further illustrate, imagine that you didn’t have this belief. Imagine that you knew that you were worthy of deep, passionate, wondrous love. Imagine that you were solid in knowing how fabulous you are. Now, imagine coming home to no messages on the machine. What MoD Telieve Is Who MoD A1e ! A17