From here, you can explore who you are besides a mom. You can get to know some of your dreams that have nothing to do with being a parent. You can real- ize that you believe you are an amazing writer who hasn’t been writing because you believe you are only a mom. Then, you can turn it around and start believ- ing you can be a mom and a writer. You can turn off the TV and start writing. Excitement and joy can now fill your body based on your new belief that is empow- ering. Potato chips? What potato chips? I am not hungry. The other area where I disagree with many of my col- leagues is an old concept in psychology and in coaching that talks about identifying, then getting our needs met, by telling our loved ones what they can do to meet our needs. I do not agree with this technique at all because it makes you completely dependent on other people to meet your needs. For example, if I don’t feel loved in my life, this philosophy says that I should tell my husband about it, then give him ideas on how he can make me feel more loved. Maybe I could suggest he buy me flowers, hug me more, or light candles in the bedroom. The belief is that if my husband does these things then I will feel more love from him. All I can say is pahleeese! What MoD Telieve Is Who MoD A1e ! A31