caused the feeling. What really happened is that we decided to feel a certain way because of the circum- stances. The truth is you decide how you are going to feel based on what you believe about yourself and what you believe about the circumstances of your life. Many times, we are confused and believe that the real rea- son we are mad is because of something someone said to us. But the real reason we are mad is because we believed them. We have interpreted the event in a way that brought up a negative emotion from within. Here are some samples: ! ! \ \o os ss si ib bl le e P Ph ho oD Dg gh ht taa “Qy hDsbanC maXes me so maC.” R Re ea al li it ty yaa Go3 yoD maXe yoD maC. ! ! \ \o os ss si ib bl le e P Ph ho oD Dg gh ht taa “Qy boCy maXes me +eel so Dgly.” R Re ea al li it ty yaa Go3 yoD maXe yoD +eel so Dgly ! ! \ \o os ss si ib bl le e P Ph ho oD Dg gh ht taa “.he 1eally hD1t my +eelings.” R Re ea al li it ty yaa Go3 yoD chose to +eel hD1t. ! ! \ \o os ss si ib bl le e P Ph ho oD Dg gh ht taa “Qy li+e maXes me DnhaYYy.” R Re ea al li it ty yaa Go3 yoD maXe yoD DnhaYYy. ! ! \ \o os ss si ib bl le e P Ph ho oD Dg gh ht taa “Phis illness has 1DineC my li+e.” R Re ea al li it ty yaa Go3 yoD1 1eaction 1DineC yoD1 Ye1sYective. Weelings A1e +o1 Weeling ! A03