Self-Care Tool #5 Be a Compassionate Observer My best asset as a coach is perspective. It is very easy for me to see the issues in my clients’ lives with clari- ty because I am not “in” their lives. I try to help my clients step out of their lives and look at themselves with a new perspective. I tell them to come sit with me and look at them and tell me what they think is going on. It is very powerful. It helps separate the activities of life from the person living it. I require they main- tain compassion when they are doing this, and I have them observe themselves with love and not judgment. Understand that you will make mistakes. You will blow it and do things that are just plain awful. So what? This is not a good time to start beating yourself up; this is a good time to try to understand what is going on with you. Start questioning why you do things, give yourself the benefit of the doubt, and realize that you have a very good reason for doing it. You can dislike something you’ve done and still like yourself. This is a very powerful tool when feelings seem too overwhelming to feel. Sometimes, we can’t seem to find the feeling or relax enough to let it come up. If we QaXe MoD1sel+ \1oDC by PaXing Ca1e ! A58