I had a client who was a high-level executive who was too busy to do anything she really wanted. I asked her immediately to define busy for me. She went on to describe her day of running errands, going to meet- ings, picking up her kids, going to the store, making dinner, doing laundry, and answering client’s calls. She had lumped these activities into a seemingly unchangeable busy. Busy was living her life and it was at the expense of what she really wanted. I suggested she change her plan by writing down everything that was important to her and putting that at the top of the list and then adding activities from the busy pile under that. At first, she thought it would be impossible to add one more thing to her day. On evaluating how she was spending her time, she saw ways she could delegate and eliminate some of her busy. It really worked. She had the mantra, “Me first, busy second.” The ultimate result was that she was able to fulfill her own needs and actually handle the rest with much more peace because she saw it as a choice, not a forced reality of life. QaXe MoD1sel+ \1oDC by PaXing Ca1e ! 170 Uon’t con+Dse “being bDsy” with living yoD1 li+e.