I don’t offer a diet, pre-packaged meals, or a magic pill. This book is not about me telling you what to do. It is not about me telling you what I eat specifically every day so you can do the same. My work and this book are about you finding your answers. It is based on the belief that you have your own wisdom with the exact formula of what works. Even though I think this is amazing news, which is empowering and exciting, many of my clients do not. They don’t want to “go in,” they want me to give them structure, rules, and limits. They feel out of control and want to be managed. I always disappoint in this way. No matter how many times they ask for structure, I give them challenging emotional assignments designed to bring up their emotions and obstacles so they can get to know them- selves. I never give them an external cure for the extra fat they carry on their bodies. I see the fat as a mes- sage to go in and find out what is going on emotionally. I see it as an opportunity to begin some important work in their life. One of my clients put it this way: “If I had known where this process would take me, I would not have ever signed up. That would have been the biggest mis- take of my life. Not only have I lost weight, but I have found joy in my life again.” AB ! I+ IAm .o .ma1t3 Why Can’t I Lose Weight?