lines for walking three times a week and she would come to the session saying she hadn’t done it, I would ask her, “Why?” She would say that she hadn’t felt like it. She would say it in a way as if to state that was a very strong, legitimate reason. She had not learned the tool of noticing what she felt like doing, then deciding to do what she wanted to do despite her negative feel- ings. I suggested that she do what she wants and not what she feels like. I told her I thought she was letting negative feelings that originated from negative beliefs run her life without her permission. She was flabber- gasted at this perspective and decided to give it a try. She hasn’t missed a workout since. Amazingly, those feelings of not wanting to work out at some point dis- appeared. She is strong in her confidence of what she wants in her life, and she knows if those feelings come back, she will feel them, and then do what she wants to do anyway. This is one of the best ways I know to build self-confi- dence and pride. When things come easy to us, we don’t feel as proud as when they are more difficult. The act of acknowledging that something is difficult because we don’t feel like doing it and then doing it anyway for our- selves is a deposit into our own emotional bank account. As we do this over and over out of self-love, meeting our own needs to achieve our dreams, self- QaXe MoD1sel+ \1oDC by PaXing Ca1e ! A64