Any feeling that comes into our day or our life needs to be welcomed. We need to look forward to our feel- ings and learn how to “do” them well. I am always telling this to my clients. We can “do” embarrassment. We can “do” shame. We can “do” pain. What I mean by this is that there is nothing to be afraid of. Instead of running, we can let the feelings come in and get to know them. We get to know what pain feels like in our body. We get to know how it feels in our mind. We go through the feeling to the other side of it, and then it’s gone. You don’t have to eat when you feel. You don’t have to fight stress and anxiety and worry about feel- ing emotions. We don’t have to avoid situations that make us feel, because we aren’t afraid of them any- more. It sounds simple, but the skill of being able to feel all your feelings can completely change your life. Your knowledge of how to feel and your willingness to feel will increase your likelihood of taking risks and living more fully. Having courage doesn’t mean you aren’t afraid, it means you feel afraid and you do it anyway. You and fear can become friends once you get to know each other. Many of the things I do in my life and my business scare me, but I don’t get scared of being scared. I just say “Hello scared, I was expecting you to come; now let’s get to work.” 84 • If IAm So Smart, Why Can’t I Lose Weight?