The truth is that you can’t go back. The past is over. For some of us, this is a blessing. The good news, how- ever, is that the future is yours for the taking. You can create a future that is better than your past. Many times, if you ask a past-focused person what their plans are for the future, they have no idea where they are going. They are being defined by who they used to be without taking control of who they want to be. I can tell when someone I am working with is past- focused or defined by their past because they will say things like: Phat’s hDst how I have always Cone it. Phat Coesn’t wo1X +o1 me_ I have t1ieC it. I’ve always haC this issDe my enti1e li+e. Phis is hDst how I am. I am not the XinC o+ Ye1son who can Co that. I’ve always been ove1weight_ it’s hDst me. I am not a ve1y gooC athlete. When I hear this kind of talk, I know the client is being defined by the “evidence” of their past, evidence that they have been unconsciously looking for in order to prove their terrible belief systems. Although I do believe we need to learn from our past and grow from QaXe MoD1 WDtD1e SaYYenfUon’t Let It SaYYen to MoD ! 181